“May” didn’t begin how I hoped. Life got messy, emotions ran high, and burnout knocked louder than usual. But somewhere in the chaos, I found a gentle reminder…

Sometimes, growth looks like showing up a little late—but still showing up.

Okay, I’ll admit it—I blinked, and May was already halfway over.

April was packed with all the things I had to do. Then May came and swept me up in even more. Yes, I work from home—but that doesn’t make it any less stressful or demanding.

At first, I panicked. I thought I’d missed the rhythm I’d been building this year—those monthly reflections that ground me, shape my seasons, and help me pause. I stared at my planner like it had betrayed me.

Then I laughed—

Because maybe I didn’t miss May at all. Maybe I just needed to meet her a little late.

And honestly? That feels kind of perfect.

To me, May has always felt like a soft pause. A breath between spring’s bloom and summer’s rush. Warm days, breezy evenings, school endings, garden beginnings, halfway-met goals, and to-do lists still rubbing the sleep from their eyes.

My youngest just graduated from high school. Ans I’m so proud, we are so proud of him—but I am also overwhelmed. The nest is about to quiet down. One is getting married probably soon. My daughter dreams of seeing the world and traveling. And my youngest? He’s college-bound.

Meanwhile, I’m rebuilding my main website—one recipe at a time.

I’m in round three of editing my book (‘cause… perfectionist! 🙈)

My perimenopausal emotions? Well, sometimes they’re a lot to handle.

And wifehood? I married the kindest soul—but I’m person who likes her “me time,” and he’s a full-on social butterfly. I crave stillness; he thrives in motion around people.

😳 Oh—and let’s not forget the AC unit that decided to quit on us. I was stressed beyond stressed.

I found myself asking:

Can I please catch a break?

Can this girl take a breath?

I’m tired of being tired. And if I keep pushing—I’ll pop.

But…

There’s a gentle strength to May. Not bold. Not loud. Just… present.

I’ve been trying to stay positive—slap on a smile, keep moving, pretend it’s all fine. And in many ways, it is. I have healthy kids. A roof over my head. Food on the table. I run a small business. I have a beautiful support system around me.

Someone might say, “How dare you complain?”

And yet… here I am.

Because gratitude and exhaustion can coexist. Because joy doesn’t cancel out the overwhelm.

This past month, I’ve moved like a hurricane—not by choice, but because life demanded it. Burnout crept in like a slow leak. I didn’t get the pause I needed. I cooked more. Edited more. Worked more. And I kept wishing I had time to walk under blooming trees—to remind myself that movement doesn’t always have to look like productivity.

Sometimes, momentum is simply continuing. Sometimes, it’s just not quitting.

So if you’ve been feeling behind—on your goals, your dreams, your routines—this is your reminder:

• You’re not too late.
• You didn’t mess it up.
• You didn’t miss the window.
• You’re still in it.

The chapter isn’t closed. You’re just on a different page.

Let this summer be your season of soft starts. We can do it together!

Water the seeds you forgot. Pick up the project you set aside. Or just… rest. That counts, too.

Because not everything blooms in March. Not every transformation begins on the first. Not every fire needs to roar—some glow quietly, building heat.

Here’s your gentle permission slip:

⏳ To start again, even late.

🌱 To take a breath and begin small.

✨ To honor the quiet shifts no one sees.

As for me? I’m here. I made it.

May might’ve caught me off guard, but I’m not missing it now.

Let’s move gently, love fiercely, and trust that even soft momentum can carry us far.

Your turn:

• What’s one small intention you’re carrying into the rest of May?

Drop it in the comments or whisper it to yourself. Either way—it matters.

Here’s to showing up, even late.

— Sanna

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I’ve asked myself countless times—what does not good enough even mean? Why do I feel this way before I’ve even started something as if I’m already bracing for disappointment? Why do I push myself so hard? So many questions, right?

It took me years to realize that childhood trauma plays a huge role in these feelings of never being enough.

I’ve been estranged from my immediate family for over a decade, and I’m okay with it. I’ve found peace, even though my divorced parents—who I think still don’t speak to each other—occasionally reach out in small ways. And honestly? It makes me furious.

I blocked them on every possible platform but sometimes there is a small loophole I miss.

Okay, maybe I am extra, but I don’t remember them ever supporting my ideas or passions. I started blogging, published a book (which I later pulled from reprinting), went through surgery, and experienced countless major life moments—yet not once did they reach out to say, “Congratulations!” or “Are you okay?” Not even a simple “Well done.”

It was always about them; me, me, me…

They weren’t the worst parents, but narcissistic? Absolutely.

I recently started emailing my father again, well, I decided to take small steps and talk to him, and if I don’t reply for weeks—or even months—he eventually asks if I’m okay. That would’ve bothered me so much in the past, but now? My heart just doesn’t care anymore.

Sometimes I feel guilty that I’ve shut off that part of me, but it is what it is. The feeling passes—usually after some meditation or a long walk. I had the hardest time when my sister shut me out. That was hurting for ages!

The Weight of Never Feeling Enough

Did I grow up questioning my very existence? Struggling to trust people? One hundred percent.

As a child, nothing I did was ever enough. I was too big, too slow, not as good as my sister—always falling short. See the pattern? I was never good enough, smart enough, skinny enough.

Last night, as I lay in bed, I started drafting this post in my head and felt the need to share it. Because I know I’m not alone. These childhood wounds shape our adult lives in ways we don’t even realize.

I’m not a psychiatrist, but I’ve done a lot of inner work to heal. And here’s the truth: My parents’ divorce when I was 19 messed me up, but the damage started long before that. I just didn’t recognize it until I hit my 40s. And when that realization hit me? It felt like a brick to the face.

But I refuse to play the victim—because I’m not one.

I picked myself up. My husband helped me put the pieces back together. And then, I did the work to heal—with his and our kids’ support.

Was I judged for cutting ties 15 years ago? Yes. But I did it for my own sanity, not that I owed anyone an explanation. Some family members don’t get it, and that’s okay. Nobody has to get it except me. I have my reasons. I was ignoring the rumors because I was shutting the noise.

Why Self-Healing Matters

Do I still struggle? Yes. But I’ve learned that if you don’t actively work on healing, these feelings of not being enough will consume you.

It’s easy to get sucked into depression—and that can spiral into an entirely different level of struggle.

What Can You Do?

• Find a therapist. Talking to a professional can be life-changing.

• If therapy isn’t for you, find your own healing path. Read books, listen to motivational speakers, try hypnosis, meditate, go for walks, and keep a journal.

• Fuel your body. Eating better and taking supplements helped me feel stronger—physically and mentally.

• Move your body. Exercise is essential, but that doesn’t mean you have to do high-intensity workouts. Walking is a great start. I won’t pretend I love working out, but I always feel better afterward.

Overcoming the Feeling of ‘Not Good Enough’

Breaking free from this mindset requires self-awareness, intentional action, and a whole lot of self-compassion. Here’s what helped me:

1. Identify the Root Cause

• Where do these feelings come from? Childhood? Society? Relationships? Journaling can help uncover patterns.

2. Challenge Negative Self-Talk

• When you catch yourself thinking, I’m not good enough, ask: Would I say this to a friend?
• Replace it with self-compassion: I am worthy as I am. My value isn’t tied to perfection.

3. Detach Your Worth from Achievement or Appearance

• You are enough simply because you exist—not because of what you do, how you look, or how much you accomplish.

4. Set Boundaries

• Say no to things that drain you. Distance yourself from people who make you feel unworthy.

5. Prioritize Self-Care

• Do what brings you joy—art, music, nature, movement. Nourish your body with food that makes you feel good.

6. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

• Social media fuels feelings of inadequacy. Focus on your progress, not someone else’s highlight reel.

7. Celebrate Small Wins

• Keep track of your achievements, no matter how small.

8. Seek Support

• Talk to trusted friends, a therapist, or a mentor. Surround yourself with people who lift you up.

9. Practice Self-Compassion

• Everyone struggles. Be kind to yourself.

10. Embrace Growth, Not Perfection

• Shift your mindset from I have to be the best to I am always learning and evolving.
• How Self-Worth, Childhood Trauma & ‘Not Good Enough’ Connect to Food & Workouts

Childhood trauma and feelings of inadequacy often shape how we view food, exercise, and self-care:

1. Emotional Eating & Food Struggles – Many people use food to cope with unresolved emotions—whether for comfort, control, or distraction.

2. Exercise as Punishment vs. Self-Love – Some push their bodies out of guilt, feeling they have to earn food. Others avoid movement altogether due to fear of failure.

3. Perfectionism & Control – A history of trauma can lead to obsessive control over food and exercise as a way to feel enough.

4. Negative Self-Talk & Motivation – Instead of treating food and movement as self-care, we punish ourselves. Restriction, bingeing, over-exercising—it’s a cycle fueled by shame.

Healing means separating self-worth from body image. Learning to nourish ourselves because we deserve it.

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling not enough, I see you. I’ve been there.

Healing is not linear, and it doesn’t happen overnight. But you can break free from these patterns. You can create a life where you feel enough—just as you are.

Wishing you strength and self-love,

Sanna